Question: Think of a time when you felt great stress. How did you relieve it?
I just had a text from a friend that happens to be a Mormon. We were dealing with a slightly stressful situation so I asked him how a good Mormon deals with stress. He replied, “Good question, I don’t know, maybe I will take a run at the end of the day.” He asked me to share with him whatever I came up with. I am pretty blank right now and stressed a bit because I only have an hour and a half to complete this and get it to the church. I don’t think running will take my problem away besides I am too old to run. I have prayed for God to use me to write this and I have faith that he will send something through me so here it goes.
The stress makers today were caused by my failure to start soon enough, not paying attention to my notes about appointments and an act of God. I went to an appointment a day early because I didn’t look at my note. I didn’t start early today because I went to bed late last night, and I don’t know why God chose to make my roof at the pharmacy building leak. Oh yes, I don’t want to forget to pick up my grandson after football practice at 5:30. I just asked Siri to set an alarm for 5 p.m. to remind me. I asked a pharmacy tech that is about 20 years old a while ago if she was stressed. She replied yes and I told her she didn’t know what stress is at age 20. That is unless she had missed three periods and didn’t have a husband. She laughed--- thankfully.
Stress comes in many forms and it usually is not the stressful situation that is important but how we react to that stressful situation. Of course preparation is important, however my wife gets stressed trying to be prepared. I sometimes get stressed because I didn’t worry about being prepared. We all have to understand that we create a lot of the situations ourselves. We also should know that stress does not exist - it is only our thoughts that exist. We are going to have stressful situations arise no matter how we plan and we can decide to let the thoughts develop that make us feel stressed or we can choose not to let those thoughts develop. When I was stuck in a ditch one time I thought, “Well I have been stuck in a lot of ditches in my life and I guess I got out of all of them because here I am in this one.”
Those stressful thoughts can result from traveling into the future as if we already know what the future will hold. That is in essence dealing with something that is not real. We anticipate so many uncomfortable, tragic, or embarrassing events that will never happen we take away our energy that can be utilized today to be happy. Even missing periods until pregnancy is apparent while not being married is not tragic. Mary handled this situation with a good mental attitude and Jesus resulted. We all make mistakes but the trick is not let the mistake make us. “Stress doesn’t come from what’s going on in your life, it comes from your thoughts about what’s going on in your life.” (Andrew J. Bernstein)
What we are doing when we feel stressed is letting those thoughts about something that probably will not happen ruin the moments that are happening. When we all stress about what someone will think about us we are not understanding that 99.999% of the people are not thinking about us at all. When we stress about something tragic that may befall our children or grandchildren we are stressing about something that 99.999% of the time will never happen. There are always alternatives for missed deadlines. Not much in this world is worth feeling stressed about and God has offered to carry our stressful loads so why not take advantage of his graceful offer?
Philippians 4 6:7
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
- Do you think worry and anxiety is the mother of all stress?
- If God tells us not to worry about anything why don’t all Christians obey him?
- Do you have a method of not letting those thoughts that will make you feel stressed develop?
- What is the difference between avoiding stress and just being lazy?
- A good part of the stress we feel is about money. Are you ever guilty of letting money be a source of stress in your life?
- Have you ever used alcohol or pot to relieve stress? Is this always bad or sometimes ok within limits? What if you tried prayer first?
What were those things you felt stressed about last month? Did your world end?
This entry was provided by Jim Dille.